She’s still waiting for someone to choose her. Let it be you.
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Rejection once felt like survival
As a child, rejection didn’t just sting— It meant disconnection. Abandonment. A loss of love, safety, or identity.
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So you adapted
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You became: – The pleaser – The achiever – The quiet one – The never-a-burden All to avoid being left.
But that wound never disappeared
It followed you into adulthood… Into your relationships… Where you still feel the echo: “If I’m not perfect, I’ll be unloved.”
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How it shows up now
– Overthinking every text – Struggling with boundaries – Feeling unworthy of consistency – Mistaking attention for affection
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Your inner child isn’t weak—she’s waiting
Waiting for someone to say: “You’re lovable even when you’re messy. Even when you cry. Even when you need.”
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Begin by meeting her where she is
Visualize her. Where is she? What is she wearing? What is she feeling? Just sit with her. Without trying to fix.
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Then give her what she never got
A soft voice: “You’re safe now.” - A steady hand: “I won’t leave you.” - A truth: “You don’t need to earn love.” Say it. Out loud. Every day.
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Rewrite the inner script
From: “I’ll be rejected if I’m real.” To: “I am worthy, even when I’m vulnerable.” Your nervous system listens to repetition.
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This is re-parenting
It’s not about blaming the past. It’s about giving yourself now what you should’ve always had.
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Every time you choose yourself
You whisper to her: “I won’t abandon you again.” And she begins to trust.
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Final Thought:
You feared rejection because love once felt unsafe. Now, you get to rewrite the story. Be the home your inner child never had.
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